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Updated: Sep 15, 2023

Alright ladies, the fact of the matter is that it’s 2023 and you don’t need to sit around waiting for the man to make the first move. And trust us, we get it. There’s nothing scary than putting yourself out there just for an a**hole dude to totally blow you off, but we know just the thing that’s going to help you out and get you exactly where you need to be. And let’s be honest, rejection is inevitable. We are all exactly who we need to be and if someone doesn’t appreciate and love us for who we are, that’s their issue, not ours. With that being said, here are five tips to make the first move.

1. Have Confidence

It sounds so cliche, but literally, it’s so important. How is someone going to admire you, love you, see you, and hear you if you aren’t able to do those things for yourself. Walk with confidence, talk with confidence and speak with it too. If you love yourself, you are going to radiant so much positive energy that people are going to inherently become more attracted to you.

2. Show Some Self Respect

You should never act like something or someone you’re not or do something you don’t want to do in order to get anyone’s attention. Know who you are, know what you stand for and hold yourself to those standards when you are looking for the “one,” Men desire women who are independent, strong and confident and you need to hold yourself to those standards in order to have respect and gain it from others too.

3. Stay Chill

Trust me, we all get that anxiety when we’re talking to someone we like and then we start talking really fast, flipping our hair and bringing the conversation into like six different directions. Take a deep breath. Chill out. Be Cool. It’s a lot easier said than done but at the end of the day, (going back to the confidence thing) if you can be chill and calm, the person you’re approaching will probably feel the same way, leading them to be more comfortable around you too.

4. Bring Out Your Silly Side

People say that food is the way to a man’s heart but I literally think that jokes are. If you can make a man laugh, you’re a hole-in-one. Everyone likes someone who can crack a joke, bring out the humor and provide a good time, so it’s totally fine to bring out that side of you. And hey, if they don’t laugh at your jokes, you don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t have a sense of humor anyways!

5. Be Direct

Although you might have a million thoughts running through your mind when you’re talking to your crush, they probably have a million thoughts too. They are just as nervous as you are and you need to be aware and patient with that. If you are ready to finally make the move, be direct about it. Ask them if they want to grab that cup of coffee, go to that movie, head back to your place or hangout tomorrow. There’s no need to beat around the bush and this directness is guaranteed to alleviate so much stress off of their shoulders.

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