Forgive. Glow. Repeat.

As the Jewish new year approaches one of the things that’s focused on is the topic of  forgiveness. Forgiveness is a complicated topic, and many people have personal and different  opinions on it. 

Let’s face it, forgiving someone who hurt you is extremely hard, but  forgiveness is an important aspect to having a healthy mental relationship with yourself. Whether your friend did something disgusting  to you, or an ex cheated on you, holding something against them seems like the best option. What if I told you holding onto that grudge is damaging yourself more than helping you, because most times they don’t care about the fact that you're mad at them.  Holding a grudge is often compared to holding heavy weights, the longer you hold the grudge the heavier it weighs on your heart. 

Something that helps make forgiving people easier  is the “Let them theory” - by Mel Robbin’s. She  explains how the next time someone does something rude to you, or your friends leave you out of the dinner date, just simply let them. You try so much trying to control other people and it can get you emotionally worked up, but in reality you have no say in what they do, and they choose their own actions. 

Going back to the topic of forgiving, you can forgive but not forget - it’s two different things. While forgiveness might take a few months or even years, eventually coming to the terms of forgiveness will help you so much. It will feel like a weight has lifted off your chest. Being able to sit in class and not feel like there’s an elephant in the room because of one girl who did something rude a few years ago, is a great feeling, I can say so myself from experience. Setting necessary boundaries after forgiving someone is 100% valid, placing barriers to make sure the same situation won’t happen again is a great way to help settle a situation.