The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Taken Advantage of, and Start Standing up for Yourself!

By: Meme Merchant

Growing up as a little girl, we were all told “they are just jealous of you” and to “just

avoid them." The reality is, WHAT YOU ALLOW WILL CONTINUE! This is something my mom told me over and over again- trying to strengthen me in all different types of dramatic situations. Personally, I have never had the ability to stand up for myself- as many others can say the same about themselves. As I wrap up my freshman year of college, I can safely say I have learned A LOT about how to stand firmly in my morals, say no, and even fight back when needed. Let this be your guide to recognizing the symptoms of The Nice Girl Syndrome, and how to discover your most confident self when you feel like you’re drowning in girl drama.

Symptoms of The Nice Girl Syndrome

Do you feel as though you have lost your power? Someone mistaken your kindness for

weakness again? Here’s the good news: that doesn’t ever have to happen again. If you

back down to anyone who is threatening your peace, you are reading this article for a

reason and might be seeking answers. I always tell the girls to protect their peace- it

should never be tampered with, and the people who love you the very most in this life

will know to handle it with care. Take a minute and ask yourself, “am I surrounding myself with people who care for my feelings and emotions”? If there is anyone that comes to mind with an automatic no, we are about to reset and reboot our mindset, and prepare for some changes to be made!

Take Back What’s Yours!

As I just mentioned above, the power that you hold has an unbelievable amount of

strength that needs to be used with confidence in your ability to execute it properly. The

second you back down to someone, or they take advantage of you and your kindness, you

lose power and they have it at their fingertips. To avoid this happening, please, I

absolutely beg of you, never let someone diminish your happiness. When you face

confrontation, take a step back to understand all parameters of the situation, then

self-reflect. Ask yourself, “how would I feel if the roles were reversed” and “what would

I do to handle the situation if I were in their shoes." As you take that step back, allow

yourself to THINK before you speak, interact, or confront. When we don’t process all of

the elements, things get messy- and we want anything but that.

Recognize Your Level of Value

There is so much grace to give in our world as girls- especially through all of life’s

unfavorable seasons. Knowing your worth in a room full of people, and also being able to

admit personal fault is developing yourself to be a conscientious and emotionally

intelligent human. It takes so much effort in the journey to find yourself, who you are as a

person, and learn how to prioritize your emotions when in the midst of struggle.

The Best Revenge is None

Human nature wires our brains to automatically crave jeopardizing the happiness and

well being of someone who did us wrong. I’m here to debunk this. The very best revenge

is absolutely nothing. Stay with me.

Heal. Move on. Do not become like those who hurt you.

The person or people who caused this sadness and anger in your life do not deserve any

ounce of your energy- that includes “getting back” at them for their faults. Ultimate

power is held in the hands of someone who has no desire to look back and scold those

who have wronged them, but instead, looking ahead and seeing that they are not included

in their future. It is crucial that there is absence of those who do not deserve to experience

or celebrate your most joyful moments in life.

Remember:

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The art of OBSERVING not ABSORBING.

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Slow down, and take a step back. Do not rush the outcome of something

beneficial.

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Do not let the things that have hurt you turn you into a person you are not.