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How To Be Your Own Best Friend

Updated: Nov 30, 2023

by Ellie Zeiler

As we approach the threshold of 2024, it's time to embrace a new mantra: self-love is in and self-deprecation and loneliness are a trend of the past. This new year is all about you and learning to love every part of the beautiful and unique human that you are. We're here to teach you why you don't need someone else to enjoy the simple pleasures of life. A lunch date doesn't always need to be a table for two. That movie that just came out has a spot for 1 and it's totally yours, you don't need to bring a friend! We're rolling back to square one, ready to guide you step by step into becoming your own best friend.

1. Treat Yourself How You Want Others To Treat You

Ask yourself this: How can you expect someone else to gift you flowers, shower you with compliments, and treat you like royalty if you don't do the same for yourself? It's important to treat yourself first.

Buy your own flowers, cook yourself a nice meal, and affirm daily in the mirror, "I am beautiful, I am worthy of so much love, I love you." Yes, it may sound silly, but once the universe sees that you are fully comfortable being alone, it will send someone to add to your life. That is the key - the right people will come into your life to add something once you can maintain everything you want. This self-reliance not only attracts the right people but also empowers you to no longer tolerate mistreatment from others.

2. Prioritize The Life You Want To Build, Every Single Day

Create a Pinterest board or journal about the life you want and who you envision yourself to be at your highest self. Be selfish. Stop putting so much time and energy into people who aren't adding value to your dream life. Dedicate your time and energy to nurturing your own goals and aspirations. It's essential to recognize the importance of surrounding yourself with people who support and enrich your journey towards your dream life. Remember, investing in yourself isn't selfish, it's a necessary step in growing into the empowered and fulfilled woman you are meant to be.

3. Remember That You Are The Only One Who Will Be There For Yourself Every Single Day

There have been many times when I made new friends or entered relationships and neglected everything in my life to fully be in theirs. I stopped taking care of myself, and spent every moment with them, and ultimately when we broke up, I was left to pick up the pieces of my life again.

That's why I'm here to tell you that I've been through it all, and there's no judgement ever! But please, learn from my mistakes. Keep your life well-rounded. The only person who will always be there for you is you. So love yourself unconditionally, take care of your priorities, and build your life. Never change for others.

4. Take Yourself On Dates

Taking on the role of being your own best friend involves treating yourself like a friend! Start by indulging in activities that bring you joy, even if it means doing them solo. Treat yourself to a trip to the nail salon, enjoy a movie in the theater by yourself, or dedicate an evening to self-care by turning off your phone at 7 PM and unwinding in your own bliss.

These acts of self-love aren't just enjoyable, they open up a path for you to discover some self-appreciation. If you regularly carve out time for these personal experiences, you'll find yourself falling in love with who you are, bit by bit, every single day. This journey of self-discovery and self-appreciation isn't just about enjoying your own company, it's about building a relationship with yourself that is just as loving and fulfilling as other relationships in your life.

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