NOT falling for your summer fling...

By: Your big sister

It’s summer. The sun’s out, your playlist’s fire, and even walking down the street feels cinematic. You’re glowing, romanticising your iced coffee and grinning at strangers. This is your big sister MUUZ checking in to make sure you don’t let a summer fling, situationship or we don’t have a label drama dim your light.

Situationships are tricky. You’re probably telling yourself I’m not that into him or it’s not that deep. But come September, when the sun sets earlier and the group chats are full of uni move-in plans, that carefree energy might not hit the same. Let’s keep your summer feeling good all the way through.

Keep your life full

Boys? Cute. Fun? Sometimes. But they are not and should never be the main event. Being single and fulfilled is truly undefeated. Pour into your friendships, try something new, start a side hustle or hobby. Make your life so full that any guy is just the cherry on top, not the whole sundae.

Prioritise your friends

It sounds obvious, but acting on it is a different story. One thing I took from Why Men Love B*tches is this: being a little less available is a power move. It’s a win win. You get to laugh until you cry with your girls, and he gets time to miss you.

Let’s be honest…A night out with your girls is always better than lying on his navy bed sheets being mansplained crypto, cars or the economy.

Look after yourself

Your body, mind and spirit deserve care. Prioritise working out, eating well (food is fuel) and practising wellness. Skip the 10pm wyd for a pilates class and watch how empowered you feel. A man can’t give you the glow you get from showing up for yourself.

See the bigger picture

Let’s get real. Is this situationship actually going anywhere? Can you really see this ending well?

Here’s the truth: if you’re constantly confused or anxious about where you stand, he’s not that into you (sorry, but someone had to say it). You can’t change him. And you shouldn’t want to.

Need clarity? Make a Rory Gilmore style pro con list. And if you even need a list? That’s your first con right there.

Still not convinced? Check out: He Doesn’t Want YOU, He Just WANTS You: A Look at the Difference Between Lust and Love in 21st Century Dating.

Had enough boy talk? Check out: My Rules I am Living By This Summer